So, my husband hates my birkenstocks. He has nothing against my somewhat loose hippy dippy happy ways – he himself used to sport a goatee, eat toffuti and play along to Chris Kristopherson. He just sincerely doe not like the look of them on me and in the past month, has conveniently brought me home two new pairs of shoes to replace them with. And while super sweet, neither of them compare – in both looks and comfort – to my light purple metallic birks.So, what do I do?I mean this sincerely. I trust my husband implicitly. When pressed, he just mumbles something about them making my feet look like Barney Rubble impostors. But I have a wonky foot and these are sooo comfortable and they are PURPLE – nothing is ever bad in purple, right? ( My kids are tweens, so apparently Barney no longer exists in my universe)
I have little doubt that he is looking out for my best interest here, I am neither offended or hurt. That said, I am a little self-conscious wearing them out of the house now. He may likely be right, they are not flattering. To be fair, I am a firm believer in being able to not look too schleppy and remain super comfortable – the days of pitting comfort against style are dated and aged (and to the fashion editors who continue to battle them out – so are you, suckah!!).So the question remains (Actually it has evolved into a few questions):
- Would you wear something that your partner genuinely thought was doing you a disservice?
- Would you wear something that YOU genuinely though was doing you a disservice but chose to disregard?
- Would it make a difference if it was your bff/Stacey/Clinton calling you Barney, rather than your partner?
- Should I just replace the dang shoes already?
July 19, 2011
Marci… Daily I wear stuff the other half shakes his head at. I wear stuff I know is doing me a disservice. I don’t care. Neither does the dog. I think if my kids were really embarrassed to be seen with me somewhere I would care. Otherwise, not so much.I do mostly make an effort when I go out and I do love clothes and fashion, but 75 percent of the time, my comfort comes first.I’d wear your purple sandals lots, but find other ones — comfy and stylish — for going out (on special occasions) with your partner.
July 22, 2011
Thanks Pam, I think my husband has been secretly been training the dogs to go after these sandals actually, lol!!Agreed – i did go out the other day looking for snazzier ones, but alas, no luck. Just means I get to keep trying though!
July 20, 2011
I wear Birkenstocks all the time! I wear the Madrid style. I had to switch because I was having foot problems due to lack of arch support and they solved all my problems.My husband hates them!So, I wear normal shoes when we go out for dinner or over to friends’ houses etc. but when we’re just puttering around with the family or getting errands done, I’m all Birks all the time! xo
July 22, 2011
Nat, I have wonky foot issues too, so that is my justification to keep wearing them. Although – thanks to that Skechers contest, i will be receiving a new pair of shoes with great arch support so i may be replacing the birks anyhow! I received tons of comments and it is unanimous – no husband has admitted to liking birks!
July 20, 2011
I wear Birkenstocks all the time! I wear the Madrid style. I had to switch because I was having foot problems due to lack of arch support and they solved all my problems.My husband hates them!So, I wear normal shoes when we go out for dinner or over to friends’ houses etc. but when we’re just puttering around with the family or getting errands done, I’m all Birks all the time! xo
July 22, 2011
Nat, I have wonky foot issues too, so that is my justification to keep wearing them. Although – thanks to that Skechers contest, i will be receiving a new pair of shoes with great arch support so i may be replacing the birks anyhow! I received tons of comments and it is unanimous – no husband has admitted to liking birks!
July 20, 2011
1.Would you wear something that your partner genuinely thought was doing you a disservice?No but only cause he rarely has an opinion about clothes/hair etc so if it bothered him enough to speak up I would have to believe it was truly bad.2.Would you wear something that YOU genuinely though was doing you a disservice but chose to disregard?Also no, I am far to vain. It’s part of my personality I’m working on….3.Would it make a difference if it was your bff/Stacey/Clinton calling you Barney, rather than your partner?no I would still be sad
4.Should I just replace the dang shoes already?If you LOVE them then no but you could probably find some really cute birks that aren’t so offensive to hubster…..
July 22, 2011
you are so diplomatic amber, thanks for weighing in. I think that this summer i have not really found my style groove, so the shoes are the least of it…I suspect you can appreciate what a yucky feeling that is, hate being in a style rut.will work on it for Fall!
July 22, 2011
I agree with your husband, the shoes are not flattering whatsoever, “Barney Rubble feet” is an accurate description. If you’re questioning your choice this much, you must realize that the shoes are doing you a disservice…
July 22, 2011
I agree with your husband, the shoes are not flattering whatsoever, “Barney Rubble feet” is an accurate description. If you’re questioning your choice this much, you must realize that the shoes are doing you a disservice…
July 22, 2011
Donna – wow, your *brutal* honesty is um, refreshing – I may need to take you shopping with me next time I go!!
July 22, 2011
Donna – wow, your *brutal* honesty is um, refreshing – I may need to take you shopping with me next time I go!!
July 25, 2011
I wore Birks all the time too – had purple, had brown, had tan. Wear what you like, when you like where you like. And if he does mention it tell him you don’t tell him what to wear. I finally got my husband to understand that I don’t like the flannel shirts he wears every where but he still wears them.Be you with or with you barney rubble feet and just be glad that you don’t have Fred Flinstone toes like me!!!
July 22, 2011
Thanks Pam, I think my husband has been secretly been training the dogs to go after these sandals actually, lol!!Agreed – i did go out the other day looking for snazzier ones, but alas, no luck. Just means I get to keep trying though!
July 22, 2011
you are so diplomatic amber, thanks for weighing in. I think that this summer i have not really found my style groove, so the shoes are the least of it…I suspect you can appreciate what a yucky feeling that is, hate being in a style rut.will work on it for Fall!